The other day, I ran across something that got me to thinking. It struck me to my core. I was shocked at how much it did affect me.
"If your absence does not bother them then your presence never mattered to them in the first place."
It was with that one sentence that so much became clear to me. In my life, I have found myself in and among individuals that have for one thing or another have taken advantage of my sense of loyalty and commitment.
Now before you begin to think 'there goes Dave, again' this is not about me being a victim. Far from it. This is about be realizing that sometimes that while I wanted to be right about people I was not. It is my flaw to deal with. I have always wanted to see the good in people but there have been some that no matter how far into the sand I stuck my head they were not good people.
Yet, when the time came to part ways. I realized that they moved on to other people to latch themselves onto and do to them what I allowed for so long with no reason to justify. With them gone, it was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. Do I miss them?
Of course, I do. They are human beings, after all.
But, I do not miss them for what I allowed myself to let them to do to me. Oh, those days are long gone.
No lie, there was a sense of absence and emptiness. Yet, the absence I felt has now be replaced with a sense of relief and the emptiness has been filled with growth. My Personal Growth.
Now as I write these words, I picture the next time we meet. Ships passing in the night, no call, no signal, no horn, staying on our respective course off to make a port call on a distant shore. As it should have always been.
Thank you,
David Guerra
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