Dave Guerra (the official blog): February 2023

23 February 2023

BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF - A BELL CURVE

This week’s BELL CURVE focuses on BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF

We are all human beings. Yet, we are all very different. But we all have three sides to who we are.

The Public facing side: The side we pridefully show the world. This public facing side is usually facing one way because, heaven forbid others see the rest of who we are. If and when they find out who we are, usually the Public will care as long as it takes for something else to come along and distract them.

The Personal facing side: This is the side we show those close to us. This personal side is usually what we show those we love or keep close. We do so without fear of it being used against us. Yet, there are those occasions where we are either mislead or others collect what we share only to use it as fodder when they

The third side of who we are is our PRIVATE facing side: This is the side what is within us. This side is who we are in our truest form. This private facing side is never revealed, sometimes not even to ourselves. This is called the PRIVATE side for a reason. We all have it. We all live with it. Here in the PRIVATE side resides all our deepest hopes, dreams, fantasies, resentments, and plots of revenge. For most people, that is where they stay.

Many live with all three sides out of balance and broken. They fear truths being revealed. They live in fear and are never happy.

Individuals that do not fear being revealed live in balance. A balance that they have nothing to lose by letting in those that mean no harm. A balance by immediately dealing with those that mean them harm.

The balanced life comes from BEING TRUE TO YOURSELF, FIRST!

Thank you,
David Guerra

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16 February 2023

MAKING EXCUSES - A CHART

This week’s CHART focuses on MAKING EXCUSES

We all make excuses. NO ONE IS IMMUNE FROM MAKING EXCUSES.

For the most part, excuses are made not to deflect blame but to explain why something was done the way it was done or why it was not completed or started. In general, EXCUSES such as these should be occasional occurrences. They should be the exception and not the norm.

Yet, there are those individuals that excel at making too many excuses for why this or that happened. Their EXCUSES can almost be predicted down to the second of when they will occur. These EXCUSE making individuals cannot be counted upon to do what must be done and completed by the time it needs to be completed. The EXCUSES these individuals make will vary with most, if not all, will be in blaming others or situations that they had no part in, yet find themselves being impacted by them.

Once these types of EXCUSES begin, they do not stop coming. EXCUSES blaming others, deflecting from what actually happened, and other such nonsense leads to one common denominator: NOT ACCEPTING RESPONSIBILITY.

EXCUSES flow in a manner that, as mentioned, others can predict, with great accuracy, when the next one is coming because it will come. Individuals of this caliber, while not delivering on what they say or promise to do can be trusted to do one thing with absolute certainty: MAKING EXCUSES.

If you are an EXCUSE maker, try something new: STOP MAKING EXCUSES!

09 February 2023

SELF-RESPECT & KEEPING YOUR WORD - A BELL CURVE

This week’s CHART focuses on SELF-RESPECT & KEEPING YOUR WORD

For some odd reason or another, I have discovered that individuals that are all show and no go have the most followers. While the individuals that keep their word find themselves as the odd-man out. Strange.

Strange indeed!

How must it feel to be an individual living life as a someone who talks a good game but delivers nothing on those words.

We all know someone like that, someone who promises the moon and cannot deliver dust. Yet, they continue delivering their pipedreams and making unfulfillable promises.

Most peculiar is that the individual that keeps their word is one the most scrutinized when they deliver on their dreams or fulfill their promises. How dare they keep their word?

This is where and when those that keep their words start to separate themselves from the rest of the pack. With great consistently delivering on what you say you are going to do, will move you to the ABOVE AVERAGE level of life.

As I have unswervingly stated time and again, improving on yourself will positively impact your level of SELF-RESPECT.

Thus, while it may make you unpopular (because those that fail to keep their word do not like those that do keep their word as it makes them look bad. But then again, your SELF-RESPECT is all you have to worry about. That is, if you have any to begin with.

Yet, if you want to have some SELF-RESPECT, my advice to you: KEEP YOUR WORD & FEEL GOOD ABOUT YOURSELF.

02 February 2023

GETTING FOOLED ONCE & THEN TWICE - A CHART

This week’s CHART focuses on GETTING FOOLED ONCE & THEN TWICE

Whether it be young age, lack of knowledge, not enough wisdom or whatever the reason may have been WE have ALL been fooled at least once in our lives. Typically, this happens when we are in childhood, when we are most naïve and vulnerable.

Being fooled by others is essential to making us the people we are today. On occasion we need to be fooled by others. You could say it is almost a rite of passage into adult life. Being fooled is part of how we as humans gain wisdom. It is also part of how we grow as human beings. It helps sharpen our senses of self-preservation and makes us more observant about everything around us. Being fooled helps to put us “on guard” for the unsuspected events in our future.

However, what is NOT a rite of passage is allowing ourselves to continually be fooled by others. It is plain and simple extrapolation: The more you continue to allow yourself to get fooled, the more your chances of getting fooled again and again increase.

Once the word gets out that you are an “easy target” because you continue to get fooled the more opportunistic individuals will not only come out of the woodwork but the more, they will try (and succeed) to fool you again.

Most times, no one knows when the next time they will be fooled will occur. However, there are tell-tale signs such as when an offer seems too good to be true or you are being offered an outrageous amount of money only after you pay a “processing fee” or better still the individual(s) that fooled you before comes back to do it again. All which you willingly allow.

Of course, if you recognize that a certain type of individual or situation is returning then understand that it is up to you to do something about it. Either stop the situation from escalating or move yourself out of that situation. Know that when you REFUSE to change the situation, you WILL end up getting fooled again. Then there is one person to blame (NOT the one that fooled you) but the blame rests 100% on YOU.

Remember to old adage, “Fool me once shame on you. Fool me twice shame on me.”

Don’t get fooled again.