Dave Guerra (the official blog): October 2022

27 October 2022

Standards & Boundaries - A Chart For You

Then comes setting your boundaries. Plain and simple if you have NO BOUNDARIES then that is just an open invitation to let anyone into your life. Most certainly, there is the possibility that High Quality individuals may enter your life but if you have little to no boundaries do not expect those High Quality People to stick around or arrive in herds. However, those that will arrive and stick around are those that with little to no boundaries themselves as well as little to no respect for themselves, let alone any respect for you.

Another certainty is that having few boundaries will certainly attract those individuals that will do everything they can to test your boundaries (at first) then abuse the fact that you have little to no boundaries. So, yes, they will use and abuse you because of your failure to make, identify, and maintain any type (or kind) of boundaries. That is because they are ONLY in it for themselves.

Set your Standards/Boundaries HIGH and the only people you will be attracting are those that also set HIGH BOUNDARIES for themselves and expect others to RESPECT those boundaries and standards, no questions asked because they are giving respect in the first place.

A reminder: To Raise Your Standards and Set Boundaries, they have to be permanent. For those of you that think it is cute to say your standards are higher than your heels. Your heels end at your ankle and that is STILL pretty low to the ground.

Lastly, when it comes to setting Boundaries & Standards, they cannot be in form of a band-aid because others expect it and all you want to do is half-ass it. Remember, Success NEVER comes from doing anything Half-Ass.

Thank you,
David Guerra

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23 October 2022

About Hypocrisy in the Church (a Young Sheldon inspired post)

A couple of weeks ago I was watching the Season Premiere of one of the most entertaining television shows currently on the air. No, it wasn't the bachelor or the bachelorette. It is a comedy, a spinoff from the hit TV series Big Bang Theory. That's right I was watching YOUNG SHELDON.

In the season opener, there is a scene the Cooper family was at church with the pastor up at the pulpit preaching about love, understanding, and acceptance. Yet, throughout the service the members of the congregation were giving Sheldon's family the "side eye", "that look", and of course when the time came no one wanted to hold hands in prayer with them. Finally, Sheldon's mom said she had enough and left with kids in tow. In true Sheldon fashion, he walked back into the church and publicly called out the pastor's and the congregation's hypocrisy. Immediately, I turned to my wife and son and declared that hypocrisy is why I do not go to church.

Do not for one second get me wrong: I BELIEVE IN GOD.

I do not believe in the hypocrisy found in those "houses of worship" or the hypocrisy committed in the name of God.

God is SO MUCH BETTER THAN THAT. Then again, God does not need to make payroll.

I do not believe that another human being has any right to tell me that my marriage is not valid in the eyes of the church (Catholic church) or I am a BAD Christian because I attend church on the holidays or ignored and not welcomed by the "leader" because I am not a recognized VIP or I am not a paying (tithing) member of congregation.

Because of the lust for power and appeasement (needed to stay in power) and greed for money that naturally follows that lust for power is why I despise the hypocrisy that those religious institution breed. It is through the hypocrisy that is tacitly approved or created from the top down that creates more #hypocrites all in the name of God, your god. The God I know never equated hypocrisy with love and yet, fools in ignorant bliss continue to hear the twisted words from their so-called "leaders in the pulpit" and willfully spread their hatred, anger, and bigotry to have it to continue to grow across the congregation and generations. By across the generations I mean those that continue to subscribe to "that's the way we've always done it."

Before anyone goes off and starts with their nonsense of truly misguided and misplaced bravado by declaring "that is not happening in my church" well all I can say is that in EVERY church that I know of that is happening and while I am generalizing I challenge to peel back the layers and honestly tell me it is not happening to one degree or another.

I, without doubt, hesitation or reservation, believe that when it comes to hypocrisy in the church and within its congregation there are two types of people: Either you have your head buried so deep in the sand that you will take what they give you & how they give it to you with no questions asked OR you are right there in the middle of all the hypocrisy that you are too ashamed or you LACK the courage to stand up and with pride admit the truth.

I like my God right where he belongs: in my thoughts, in my words & in my deeds and when my time comes, I will only answer to that God.

It is NOT that I have left God, but it was through the actions, words, and deeds of other human beings that their god left me. For that I am truly thankful and grateful.

My name is David Guerra and I Thank you for your time.

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20 October 2022

The Average of Who You Hangout With - A Bell Curve

Did you know you become the average of the 5 people you hang out with?

If they are of below average quality, then guess what it is just a matter of time when you become below average.

Average quality individuals are the norm, the standard, the everyday, the common.

Be Above Average and hanging out and around Above Average will make you Above Average. However, as with anything else in life, you have to put in the work.

As always, if you are NOT willing to put in the work to be above average, then why both and enjoy your time being below average.

13 October 2022

The Higher, The Fewer - A Chart To Remember

When it comes to your quality of life there is one thing that is certain: YOU ATTRACT BASED ON HOW MUCH EFFORT YOU PUT IN TO YOURSELF.

Of course, you can say you have high standards, a high quality of living which is NOT a the same as a high quality of life.

So, stop kidding yourself know and accept the fact that if you keep living a life that is not set to a higher quality then you will only attract those individuals at the mediocre or medium-high quality and there are plenty of them.

The higher you set your quality of life, then the fewer, more select individuals will you attract. When their quality of life matters your level of a higher quality of life then you can connect a level that is refined and filtered instead of one that is just going through the motions and you find yourself complaining about your lack of ability to find higher quality individuals to connect with.

When it comes to connecting with others, YOU set the standard and you are the ONLY that allows those that are at or below the standard to enter your life.