Here's a little something for you to think about. This was originally posted on my Facebook page.
Over the the course of the five decades on this planet I have learned a few things, some good and some bad. However, one thing that I learned the hard way is how to be friend. The ability to be a friend is something that some people master quickly in life and others master later in life. I, fortunately or unfortunately, am still learning to master this.
Lucky for me, I have been able to master much, this far in life but as I stated there is still so much left to master. One thing that I have put together through observation and participation is this matrix that I call "How to be a Real Friend"
Using the matrix is real simple as each axis is label with a state of belief about friend or potential friends.
The X and Y axis are divided in half with the intersecting lines where the different states of belief begin and radiating outward is the an increasing level of intensity of those states of being within their respective quadrants.
It basically explains itself. The best place to be is in the upper right hand quadrant (You believe your friends matter and You offer friendship without expectation of return). That is where your TRUE Friends want you to be, so don't short change them.
On the opposite side of things, I would find it very difficult to believe that anyone would have a TRUE Friend if they constantly find themselves in the lower left quadrant (COULD CARE LESS and EXPECT THEM TO DO STUFF FOR YOU)! Seriously? Would anybody expect to have any kind of friendship if that's all one believes?
Therefore, it behooves all of us to do what it takes to change our mindset and work towards the UPPER RIGHT QUADRANT.
Dave Guerra
P.S. I do invite you to join the conversation and tell me what you are thinking.
As always you can read this blog post in its original location at http://daveguerra.blogspot.com
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