LEADERSHIP: TEMPTATION AND INTEGRITY / A Tuesday Night with Lolly Daskal (06/10/14)

It's that time of the week. That's right, this past Tuesday night and every Tuesday evening from 8PM to 9PM EST, I participate in the #LeadFromWithin tweetchat hosted and led by Lolly Daskal, author of "Thoughts Spoken From the Heart: Over 500 thoughts that bring meaning to your life"

I invite you to join us every Tuesday evening.

On the evening of TUESDAY, JUNE 10, 2014 the topic was "LEADERSHIP: TEMPTATION AND INTEGRITY"

Here are Lolly's Questions and My Answers:

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Q1. What does the word "integrity" mean to you? #Leadfromwithin

A1. Integrity determines what is right and how we use that to empower ourselves & others by leading by that example #leadfromwithin

COMMENTS: Doing the right thing especially when no one is watching is excellent because people are always watching whether you know it or not.

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Q2. How would you identify "Temptation"? #leadfromwithin

A2. That which entices us to do something we don’t normally do. (it doesn’t have to be a bad thing) #leadfromwithin

COMMENTS: Temptation is everywhere. There are things that we don't normally do that others do. If it appeals to us at some level then it should be approached with caution.

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Q3. As leaders how do we balance temptation and integrity? #leadfromwithin

A3. We have to weigh the options of the temptation with the skills, knowledge and wisdom we gained in life #leadfromwithin

COMMENTS: Each temptation brings something new to our lives. Think about it, if it wasn't new then it would not be a temptation.

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Q4. When is temptation good and when is temptation bad? #leadfromwithin

A4. Let your moral compass guide you to determine what is a good and bad temptation #leadfromwithin

COMMENTS: Only you can tell when temptation is good or bad. Everyone is different and everyone's interpretation of what is good or bad is different. Respect that.

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Q5. Our integrity comes from where? #leadfromwithin

A5. Integrity is a culmination of past & current experiences, how we were raised, and what we choose to do with all that #leadfromwithin

COMMENTS: It is that simple. It is our free-will that makes our integrity righteous or not-so righteous. Remember, you and only makes integrity happen.

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Q6. What temptations should we not resist? #leadfromwithin

A6. Temptations that we know are good for us, but most importantly good for those that call us leader #leadfromwithin

COMMENTS: Remember, there are some temptations that are good for us. However, we should not be selfish with those temptations. If it is good for the team, then go for it. 

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Q7. When can “Integrity” be merely a projection of our ego? #leadfromwithin

A7. When we tell ourselves that the temptation is not a temptation #leadfromwithin

COMMENTS: It is when we tell ourselves and others that we can handle it, knowing fully well that we haven't a clue on how to handle it. That's when ego is in charge and not common sense.

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Q8. How do we establish a guide for Temptation? #leadfromwithin

A8. For everyone it will vary. We are all cut from a different cloth and none of us are exactly alike. Respect and all is good #leadfromwithin

COMMENTS: A guide to Temptation is not a cookie cutter. What works for one might not work for someone else.

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Q9. How do we harness Temptation to enhance Integrity? #leadfromwithin

A9. We slow down to look at that temptation from all angles and approach with an open mind (avoid hasty decision) #leadfromwithin

COMMENTS: Avoiding the Hasty decision making will lead us down a better path. Sure something might look nice and, at first, may have what appears to be a good outcome but as we all know, looks can be deceiving.

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Q10. What wisdom to you have to share – balancing temptation and integrity? #leadfromwithin

A10. Listen to your inner voice. It is usually right. If you don’t want to listen then simply walk away #leadfromwithin

COMMENTS: Trust yourself.

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Thank you,
Dave Guerra

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MANAGING CONFLICT WITH PEERS / A Tuesday Night with Lolly Daskal (06/03/14)

It's that time of the week again. That's right this past Tuesday night and every Tuesday evening from 8PM to 9PM EST, I participate in the #LeadFromWithin tweetchat hosted and led by Lolly Daskal, author of "Thoughts Spoken From the Heart: Over 500 thoughts that bring meaning to your life"

I invite you to join us every Tuesday evening.

On the evening of TUESDAY, JUNE 3, 2014 the topic was "MANAGING CONFLICT WITH PEERS"

Due to a family event, I was not an active participant in this week's #LeadFromWithin tweetchat. However, I am still going to answer Lolly's questions.
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Q1. What causes conflict between peers? #leadfromwithin
A1. Conflict comes from misunderstanding one another due to lack of thorough 2-way communication #leadfromwithin
COMMENTS: Misunderstanding due to miscommunication is the root of all conflict.

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Q2. When is conflict good between peers? #leadfromwithin
A2. Conflict is good when focused passion about what's important is at the center aka problem solving not problem creating #leadfromwithin
COMMENTS: Conflict is good when focused passion about a subject that is important to all is at the center (problem solving not problem creating) #leadfromwithin

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Q3. When is conflict destructive between peers? #leadfromwithin
A3. Conflict is destructive when the “us vs. them” or the “with me or against me” mentality is all that everyone has #leadfromwithin
COMMENTS: The destruction comes from forcing others to choose sides and if they choose the "wrong" side then there is no turning back. Having an open end discussion, where no one is right or wrong, then the destruction is minimized.

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Q4. Why are emotional conflicts between peers uncomfortable? #leadfromwithin
A4. Emo-Conflicts will bankrupt any emotional bank account faster than any other conflict because it is rooted at a personal level #leadfromwithin
COMMENTS: When the conflict gets deeply personal then raw emotions are exposed and stressed to a point that the relationship may never recover.

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Q5. What are some goals to achieve when in conflict with your peers? #leadfromwithin
A5. Some goals to achieve when in conflict are: 1) Win-Win 2) a definitive plan to achieve the win-win #leadfromwithin
COMMENTS: Everyone wants to win. However, in a conflict every opportunity to create a win-win situation must be exploited.

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Q6. How do your values affect conflict? #leadfromwithin
A6. Values affect conflict in type, level, duration, and collateral damage #leadfromwithin
COMMENTS: The individual's value system will determine to what extend and depth they want to take the conflict.

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Q7. How does power and politics affect peer conflict? #leadfromwithin
A7. Much like everything else, those with the power & politics will set the example for the rest to follow in a conflict #leadfromwithin
COMMENTS: If those with the power want to set the right example on how to handle conflict then they will do so every time.

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Q8. What is the difference between bullying and peer conflict? #leadfromwithin
A8. It’s a fine line between bullying and peer conflict. One leaves people intimidated from trying something different the other encourages it #leadfromwithin
COMMENTS: It is a fine line and sometimes the line is blurred. A leader must do what he or she can to keep the line well defined and to stay on the right side of that line.

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Q9. What are some good processes for managing conflict with your peers? #leadfromwithin
A9. Knowing that conflict is expected and can be good. Leaders must encourage “controlled” conflict & not an all out free for all #leadfromwithin
COMMENTS: Realizing that conflict will happen a leader must do what she can to create positive results from the conflict and never let it get out of control.

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Q10. Do you subscribe to FORGIVE AND FORGET yes why or no why not ? #leadfromwithin
A10. I subscribe to Forgive and Move On. Bullies want people to forget so they can start up again. Don’t forget but don’t dwell either. #leadfromwithin
COMMENTS: You can never forget. You can however proceed with caution.

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Thank you,
Dave Guerra

P.S. I do invite you to join the conversation and tell me what you are thinking.

As always you can read this blog post in its original location at http://daveguerra.blogspot.com

I invite you to
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TIME MANAGEMENT FROM INSIDE OUT | A Tuesday Evening with Lolly Daskal (May 27, 2014)

It's that time of the week again. That's right this past Tuesday night and every Tuesday evening from 8PM to 9PM EST, I participate in the #LeadFromWithin tweetchat hosted and led by Lolly Daskal, author of "Thoughts Spoken From the Heart: Over 500 thoughts that bring meaning to your life"

I invite you to join us every Tuesday evening.

On the evening of TUESDAY, MAY 27, 2014 the topic was "TIME MANANGEMENT FROM INSIDE OUT"

Due to a family event, I was not an active participant in this week's #LeadFromWithin tweetchat. However, I am still going to answer Lolly's questions.

Q1. Define good time management _____________ #leadfromwithin
A1. Good time management is the holy grail of all time management. It can be attained but at what cost? The ability to properly manage time is a skill that may take a lifetime to master. If I had to give an answer then time management gets as good as the individual that is willing to commit to getting their unique situation under control.

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Q2. What are some obstacles that hold us back from managing our time? #leadfromwithin
A2. An obstacle is our inability to say "No" when we are already booked solid. We start adding things to our already busy schedule and we start to drop those things we originally added to our schedule. Then who suffers?

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Q3. What are some suggestions for managing time with our busy schedules? #leadfromwithin
A3.  Sharing your calendar and keeping a public calendar for all too see will (hopefully) help when others want piece of your time. We can wish they will be considerate and schedule time that is good for you and them. Hopefully!

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Q4. How does procrastination become time management's worst enemy? #leadfromwithin
A4. Procrastination leads us down a path paved in urgency. Procrastination puts us in a place that creates problems because we cannot give the appropriate time, energy and effort to any task. Once we are in that place, it is extremely difficult to get out of and then that put everything else, down the calendar, at risk.

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Q5. What are the common mistakes when it comes to time management? #leadfromwithin
A5.  The most common mistake is that we truly "believe" that we can be all things to all people.

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Q6. In your opinion what is the best method for time management? #leadfromwithin
A6. I have discovered that the best method for time management is to actually create un-breakable events on your calendar that are solely for the purpose of catching up with overdue projects, email, meetings, and when all caught up (or close to it) you can use that scheduled time as personal time to reflect, meditate, and inspire yourself.

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Q7. What are some tools to get us back on track? #leadfromwithin
A7. Have ONE unified calendar. Having multiple calendars defeats attempting to "manage" anything. It's like trying to cook the entire Thanksgiving day meal in three hours. It just won't work. Plan, Share that plan, then stick to that plan but also have room to be flexible.

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Q8. What are your habits regarding time management? #leadfromwithin
A8. One habit is to create a list of things that must be done, every day. The list is comprised of the items in my calendar and those things that pop-up throughout the day. Completing the items on the daily list leaves you with a great sense accomplishment.

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Q9. What does time mean to you? #leadfromwithin
A9.  Many believe time is money. I believe that time is just a measure of our lives. We spend X amount of time sleeping, Y amount of time working, and "not enough time" spent with family and loved ones. If we can take less Y and we can create more time with family. However, the unfortunate reality is that there will be something that is perceived to be of great importance to fill in the Y.

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Q10. How can we value our time more? #leadfromwithin
A10. We can value our time by overtly and constantly work towards creating more personal time without professional time suffering. By putting greater value in that which is important we can minimize creating "urgent" situations because we are working towards addressing those "professional" issues quickly and effectively.

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Thank you,
Dave Guerra

P.S. Tell me what you are thinking.

As always you can read this blog post in its original location at http://daveguerra.blogspot.com

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